i even told the owner that i think i am in over my head and i think I'm wasting his time and money because i dont think im qualified for the position after all and his response was very positive and reassuring. the other management level people there and administrative staff all seem to think that i am perfect for the job (it is the foreman position at a large cabinet shop) they all are intent that i stay when i am NOT confident about it. i dont understand this ! i dont know if my feeling is right and im not competent to do the job or they are right, its like they see something about me that makes them all feel like im worth whatever investment in time and training it would take to get me where i need to be to do the job. my last job (was there 8 years) was just the opposite, my boss treated me like i was disposable and destined to be under him forever. what are your thought on this situation? why would they all be so SURE of me even though i MYSELF am telling them i am in over my head All new employees always get cold feet at the beginning. Simply put, they see in you something that you don't see yourself, in the parlance it is called the IT. All you need is sometime to be acquainted with their ways and means (system). When you applied for a job in their company, I guessed you passed an interview and the whole nineyard before getting hired. Don't you think they found out that you lack self esteem? The reason why they are backing you up?
I assure you, even I will not place an investment to a person whom I feel will never be able to hack it. Maybe you lost your self confidence when your previous boss treated you like a pile of worthless junk. My suggestion is do your best and do not dissappoint those who are currently supporting you in your new job.
Good luck Give it some time. "Everything is difficult before it is easy." A new job is typically overwhelming at first, because you have so much to learn all at once. Everybody has a first day on the job, so your coworkers and boss probably remember what it was like when they first started working there. Maybe they felt much the same as you in the beginning.
Just do your best and give yourself time to learn. You don't have to be perfect to be good at your job. You don't have to know everything when you're first starting out that you might learn over the course of time working there.
Get confident; believe that you can learn what you need to learn. It sounds like you have a positive, supportive work environment, so don't self-sabotage because you don't feel worthy or something. Give it some time and give yourself a chance. I bet after awhile you'll do great.
But show that low self-confidence the door; your bosses and coworkers won't want to shore you up forever. Start talking positively to yourself in your thoughts: "I can do this. I am smart; I am a fast learner; I am creative; I remember things well..." etc. People will have more confidence in you over time if you believe in yourself. Start building yourself up with how you talk to yourself in your thoughts, and you will build a successful, winning attitude.
Read or listen to one of Joel Osteen's books; he is very encouraging. |
